The Miracle of Death

In the book, The Miracle of Death by Betty Kovacs, Betty explains that she gets a call that her 20 year old son Pisti was in a horrible car accident. Betty and her husband, Istvan drive to the hospital to find her son in a coma. She explains that they get 13 days with her son before he is taken off life support. She then takes the reader on a journey through the precognitive dreams, visions, and synchronicities that prepared her for this experience and then the experience of her husband's death. She and her son were in the habit of recording their dreams. After her son's death, she starts to put the puzzle pieces together, realizing this was all part of a plan, a much bigger plan than she realized.

Before her son's death, Betty says that all three of them had precognitive dreams and visions that he would be leaving the physical world at a young age. When her son, Pisti was 12 years old he shared a dream with her that he was in a hospital room, floating above the intensive care waiting room and then looking down at his dead body lying on an operating table. She explains that she was a little disturbed but didn't think too much of it. Then she writes that two years prior to her son's death she had a dream where Pisti symbolically walks to his death. She says that in the dream she realizes he is dead, but alive. It is joyous because they are bringing the news that the dead live on. She says that Pisti represented a bridge between the material and the nonmaterial dimensions in her dream.

Betty then explains in the book that after her son's death, Istvan, her husband shares a vision he had two weeks prior to their son's death, "Two weeks before Pisti's accident, Istvan was working in his office at home when suddenly he saw Pisti's car beside a freeway. He knew Pisti had been in a terrible accident. Superimposed on the car was Pisti's body. Istvan said, I knew Pisti was dead because his car and his body were in two different dimensions. Then he heard Pisti say, Dad, I will be out of the house for a little while. When Pisti spoke those words, Istvan felt a strange sense of acceptance. Istvan said, I knew it was time for him to do this, for this event to take place. Then suddenly, Istvan couldn't remember the vision or even that it had occurred until the fateful telephone call from the hospital two weeks later."

The book then goes on to explain her and Istvan's transformation from focusing on the material physical world to living in two worlds...one in the physical and one where they experience their son in different form. What's interesting is that Istvan was never interested or curious about consciousness or the afterlife. Once his son dies, this opens him up in ways that are unexpected. At one point, Betty and Istvan are lying in bed together in grief. When they wake up, Istvan tells Betty that he had an out-of-body experience and was visiting with Pisti. He says the following about his meeting with Pisti, "Everything Pisti said felt like a memory. I began to remember why we had come to the earth, why we were born. I knew that souls from all over the universe were here because of the critical state of the earth and its atmosphere. Pisti said that the next twenty years will be crucial for the earth. Then the question came up of why I hadn't had any interest in these matters earlier. Pisti laughed and said, You had to put that part of yourself on ice so that I could be born. If you had developed those aspects of yourself, the two of you might not have been able to conceive me." Then Pisti told him, "In other parallel worlds, we are doing similar work. Sometimes you are the one who dies and I stay. The circumstances of each situation determine who stays, but in each world, you and I create a conscious bridge between these dimensions. The only one who always stays is Mother." Istvan explains to Betty that they are living many lives where Istvan or Pisti dies and Betty stays because she understands that death is an illusion. Pisti tells him, "Birth and death are events in time and space. Dad, there is nothing but life."

Betty and Istvan continue to have dreams, visions, and meditations where they meet, talk, and feel Pisti's presence around them. They explore different meditation methods, travel to ancient sites together and finally get into a routine where they are able to live in the two worlds, the physical and spirit world.

While Istvan is working in Hungary, Betty has another precognitive dream similar to the one that she had before Pisti's death. She then finds out that Istvan was in a car accident and he was killed onsite. She explains, "Istvan had been speeding and had swerved off the road. The road was level with a wide strip of flat land, so he could have driven back onto the road with no difficulty had he not left the road precisely at a spot where there was a small tree stump. His car hit the stump, was thrown into the air and landed on the ground with such a force that Istvan was thrown out of the car. The car then bounced into the air once again and fell on Istvan's head."

Betty goes to the scene of the accident and says the following, "As I looked at these violently scattered fragments of Istvan's body, the dream of my descent into the Void just four months earlier strengthened me. I knew now that the sacred ritual in which I had participated was the Mystery of Death. Istvan's death. In the dream I had felt prepared for whatever I was to experience. And I felt strangely prepared now." As she is thinking about Istvan's body being physically hurt in the accident, she feels his presence and hears his voice, "Kiscsi, I didn't go anywhere. I'm right here, everywhere, and nowhere. I'm simply in another dimension. Let the body go. I'm not in that body. I don't need it anymore." She says that there was such a feeling of joy in Istvan's words that her own emotions shifted and she explodes in joy.

Betty explains that 4 months after Pisti's death, Istvan started having intense precognitive dreams of his own death. He grappled with this over the years trying to figure out what he was supposed to learn from these dreams and visions. He realizes that he needs to work through his fear of death. Betty said that Istvan started having dreams that included Pisti where Pisti says to him, "Dad, you don't need to fear death. You have done it many times." She says that Istvan continued to struggle with his recurring dreams but at the same time Betty and Istvan were enjoying their experiences in the Spirit World with Pisti. As his impending death becomes closer, it seems that Istvan starts to become more at peace with death.

After Istvan's death, Betty says that she is in meditation thinking about his accident, when she feels his presence in the room. He tells her, "Kicsi, it was my night to die. Everything is exactly as it has to be." He then shows her that his soul left his body when it hit the stump and that his son Pisti was waiting for him. She says that Pisti embraced Istvan and the two spirit bodies merged.

In the last chapter, Betty explains that when Istvan was alive he had an out-of-body experience where Pisti wanted to show him something. Istvan finds himself with Pisti looking at the earth from a distance in space. They see a layer of fog around the earth. Pisti tells Istvan, "Only love can pierce the pollution of forgetfulness, separation, and despair that covers the earth." He then goes on to explain that there are healers on earth that are here to receive, hold and transmit the light of love.

In the beginning of the book, Betty explains that she was always curious about consciousness since she was a child. Throughout the book, Betty quotes physicists and recent research on the study of consciousness. She explains that the current focus on consciousness and quantum physics means that humanity is evolving in the right direction. She shares the following quote toward the end of the book, "Physicist Fred Alan Wolf speaks of a 'physics of the spirit' that is emerging in our culture". Wolf says, "Quantum physics, shows us that matter is how spirit appears in the physical universe. The tracks left by subatomic particles in our sophisticated detecting devices reveal the presence of a non-physical reality temporarily manifesting as physical substance. When we investigate matter at its deepest level, we find it dissolving into a non-substantial reality that religion calls spirit. In fact, quantum physics teaches us that there's no fundamental difference between matter and spirit".

The last sentence in Betty's book is the following, "Here, at the roots of our existence, we experience the deep unity of birth and death, and we experience the radical creativity of both. We understand that 'Death is as Divine as Life' because it is Life, because 'There is nothing but Life.'"

I'll share a few of my thoughts on this book because it's clearly thought-provoking...

What's interesting to me is that in the beginning of the book, Betty explains that her mother was hit by a car and died immediately, then both her husband and son die in a car accident. As I've said in prior posts, there are no "coincidences" in this very intelligent universe that we live in. I kept thinking about why their soul chose this death. The thought that came to me was, on the outside a car accident may look like a violent or painful death. If you have read my prior posts, I've mentioned a couple times that death is not painful. The soul leaves the body before impact and is immediately supported by a loved one or angel. Also in the book, Istvan shows Betty that he left his body before impact and he was supported by his son, Pisti. So my thought is that for Betty, this was something she needed to get past....a challenge if you will. In the book, she explains that early on in her life she knows that consciousness or the soul lives on past physical death. I also noticed that when she would think about the physical death, Istvan would step in and remind her that he was not the body and that he lived on. I think that she needed to see past the physical death and remember that death is not what it seems, death is an illusion. This is a challenge for all of us though isn't it? Sometimes I see this life as a game and the objective of the game is to see past the illusion of the physical reality.

Humans fight death with all that we have but spirits and near death experiencers always describe their transition from the physical back to their natural state as wonderful. Almost like taking off a heavy winter coat in summer. They describe not needing the body anymore. We may be a little confused when we first transition from the physical back to energy because most people are not actually educated about death and spirit but the confusion wears off quickly when we are free. It's not the end but we are returning home. Isn't this all part of the illusion?

The other thought that I kept having as I was reading this book was that Betty, Istvan, and Pisti are very old Earth souls that probably have hundreds of incarnations from the beginning of time. Betty explains Pisti's personality as an old soul that meditates, visits ancient spiritual sites like machu picchu, and has out-of-body experiences and vivid dreams. He was only 20 years old when he died so he was having advanced experiences in consciousness at a very early age. Betty also started studying and researching consciousness at a young age and was referencing ancient Egyptian spiritual symbols from her visions. In addition, throughout the book they all have individual and joint visions about their love for the Earth and humanity and what they can do to help humanity evolve and break-though the "amnesia".

I've noticed that old Earth souls love the Earth and humanity more than the average person. They also tend to study and have experiences with consciousness. Old Earth souls reincarnate to bring light, truth, and change to humanity. Their pain and grief transform themselves and then others like a phoenix emerging from the ashes. Betty is someone that dived deep into the pool of grief and pain and chose to transmute that pain into light and love on our planet. I definitely recommend the book and listening to Betty talk on podcasts. She is full of the wisdom and insight of an old soul.