Stefanie Spielman

I've been thinking a lot lately about duality. The dark versus the light. Specifically, I was thinking why does the soul choose such challenging experiences. I know the answer now, to learn, grow, and evolve; however, I still struggle to understand sometimes in my human brain. I was meditating today and I was randomly thinking about Stefanie Spielman. Stefanie and her husband, football player Chris Spielman lived next-door to my house for a short period while they were building their new house. I believe I was in middle school at the time and my mom told Stefanie I could babysit for her. Stefanie was a new mom at that time with a baby. I remember I went to their house and I was a bit nervous. I think Stefanie was also nervous leaving her baby with a middle schooler. Looking back, I chuckle a little at this situation. Her husband Chris was probably pushing her out the door and I'm sure she came home as quickly as she could. The babysitting job went fine but I don't think she asked me to babysit again seeing that I was probably too young to babysit for an infant.

In my mid 20s, I found out that Stefanie had cancer. My mom used to help with Stefanie's breast cancer charity by helping with a tennis event that donated the proceeds to the Stefanie Spielman fund. I saw Stefanie at the tennis event towards the end of her cancer experience when she was getting closer to her transition. By this time, I believe she had four teenage children. She transitioned in 2009 from the cancer. As I was meditating today, I became curious and asked in my head, why did her soul choose this experience. I was clearly shown below image in my head of The James Hospital with Stefanie's name on the building.

Ah yes of course, I thought. When I googled how much money the Spielman Fund has generated for cancer, here is what it said, "A quarter-century later, the Spielman Fund has generated over $26 million, including some $20 million raised since Stefanie died in 2009 after a 12-year battle with her disease." You could say that this is a good example of an older soul incarnating on Earth to better those around her and humanity. I also found this article about Stefanie: https://alumnimagazine.osu.edu/story/daughters-cherished-gift. In the article, it says the following, "'I know there’s a reason God gave me breast cancer,' Stefanie had said, 'and I’m supposed to do something with it.' She embraced the cause of research until her death in 2009".

You would then ask, but what of her children? Well the answer is that her children's soul chose this experience as well. Usually a soul will choose to lose a parent or sibling at a young age to wake up to spirituality early. When a child or young adult loses a close family member, they ask the questions, where is my family member, what is my family member doing, are they in heaven, is there a heaven? This opens a person up to spiritual experiences, to the energetic universe, to search for meaning, to learn about purpose. That person then affects other people. It's all an interconnected web. In the article I share above, you can see that her daughter says the following, “Everything I do, I do to honor her,” Maddie says. “My world revolves around making her proud and carrying on this mission she started all those years ago.”

These experiences are all planned out very meticulously by the soul. Do you think it's by chance that Chris was a much loved football star, his wonderful wife transitions due to cancer, and they raise millions of dollars for cancer research? It's hard to understand from the human perspective why we would plan such things. Think of all the people that were helped and supported by the money donated to cancer research. All these souls are interconnected in the web as well.

Why was I thinking about this today, I wondered. Then something came to me, I'm guessing there's a significant date coming up having to do with Stefanie Spielman. I googled her name and it came up that the anniversary of her death is Nov. 19th. How interesting. The other thing that I realized is perhaps this was also the answer to my questions about duality. Her death may have seemed very dark at the time, as many people I'm sure asked the question, why do these things happen to such good people. The answer is that this experience was transmuted into love, compassion, and gratitude.

We probably have no idea the magnitude of how many people her transition affected. Think of all the charity events full of people raising money together with the intention to help others. Gosh who knows how many people were affected by that, and then their families were affected as well. It's not necessarily about money, it's about generosity and compassion. There were many people affected by Stefanie's story, perhaps it even inspired some to research afterlife and purpose. How much compassion and love were generated by this single transition. Perhaps we see such experiences as dark from the human perspective but when we are back in the spirit realm, we see all the light created from these challenging experiences. We see how it's all interconnected and woven together in such a wondrous way. In my human mind I see things as dark and light, but really they are just experiences for growth and there's an interconnection we can't always see. It's hard to remember that, so sometimes it's good to have these reminders.