Soulmates

I was very curious about soulmates when I first started researching spirituality. Of course my mind had many questions about this concept...what about people that want to be single in life, divorce and then remarry, endure the death of their soulmate and then perhaps remarry, think they met their soulmate and let that person go, and then there are arranged marriages....there are clearly a lot of questions on this topic. Let me share what I know.

The short answer is that we are all part of what's called a soul group. A soul group is a group of souls that we evolve and grow with in the spirit realm. We reincarnate with the souls from our soul group over and over again in many roles. For example my son has been my mother in a past life and my husband has been my best friend in another life.

In regards to the concept of romantic partners incarnating over and over again, it's definitely possible that we will reincarnate as romantic partners with the same mate in many lives. There's a book called You Were Born Again To Be Together by Dick Sutphen that dives into this. He was a metaphysical researcher and well known past life hypnotist. He says the following, "In every adult love relationship the initial attraction seems to be caused by physical and personal characteristics. But actually this attraction is the subconscious recognition of bonds created by a common past history. The fact is that you have known each other before in some other lifetime. Karmic history explains why you are so immediately attracted to some people and also why you are repulsed by others". He provides many examples of couples that he regressed (performed past life regression for both of them), here's one: A couple from Tempe, Arizona showed that their initial contact was in 4th-century England. He was part of a Germanic war band that settled in England and she was a Saxon, which controlled the country. The Germanic war band pillaged the countryside and she was kidnapped by the man. She was a prisoner by him and they had a love-hate relationship. He was finally killed and she fled. This began a cycle of four lifetimes that Sutphen was able to regress for them both. The next one they were in Mexico but this time their gender was reversed and the Saxon female was now a dominant male. The third life they were their original male-female gender roles on an Atlantic coastal island off southern Canada. They were married at a young age and made their living by fishing. The relationship was rocky but they raised three kids and stayed together. Today they have been married for 11 years and remain in the same original male-female roles. He is a career military officer and she is a housewife. They have two children and a happy marriage. It took them four (or possibly more) lifetimes to figure it out.

In the above example you can see that sometimes people will reincarnate over and over to work through karma and have many learning experiences together. What about divorce or those that don't find a longterm partner? What I have found is that divorce tends to be a planned or probable experience by the soul; so don't beat yourself up if you have been divorced because it likely was something your soul wanted to experience. Divorce provides a lot of learning and there's always a purpose. In the book, You Were Born Again To Be Together, Sutphen says the following, "It seems that divorce, in some cases, is the primary reason for two people having come together in the first place. They have predetermined the situation as a test of their own souls' growth, to see if they have evolved to the point of parting under positive circumstances". There are so many different lessons experienced from the end of a relationship and starting new again. The two people that are divorced are very likely in the same soul group and when a person dies and returns to the spirit realm, the souls are friends again, remembering they were just playing a role in that incarnation. Here is a quote from Destiny of Souls by Michael Newton, "We learn valuable lessons from broken relationships. The important thing is to move on in life. Some clients may tell me before their session that true love seems to elude them. After the session they usually understand the reasons behind this situation. If the right love for you does not come along, liberate yourself with the understanding that you may be here to learn other lessons".

In regards to homosexual relationships, I've found that it's the same thing as heterosexual relationships. Homosexuality is chosen by the soul when choosing a body for the incarnation. In Michael Newton's book Destiny of Souls, he says that a predisposition to being homosexual is essentially biological and these bodies are picked by the soul for specific reasons. He also says the following, "My gay and lesbian clients are usually not young, inexperienced souls. They must try and rise above public abuse in order to find self-esteem and self-identity. This takes daring and resolve, which I see when I take these clients back to the life selection room when these decisions were made". I've also found in my research that sometimes those that are homosexual may have judgmental parents, which creates an especially harder challenge where one needs to look within for confidence and strength to overcome this challenge. Also for the parents, this gives them a chance to overcome their judgmental feelings and choose love over archaic human belief systems.

So what happens after we die? If we had a good experience with our partner in the life, then they will likely be at our bedside or at the homecoming party when we die and vice versa if we die first. If we didn't have a good relationship with our partner then they won't be there. It's been very consistent in my research about this that we only see those that we want to see at our homecoming. Right after we die we are brought back to the spirit realm and there's a party with our soul group. If we had a very difficult life and died in a challenging way then we may go to a healing hospital in the spirit realm where we are showered with light to clean our energy, and we then return to our soul group later on. After our homecoming party we return to our "classroom" and continue with what we do in the spirit realm. My understanding is that we don't really act like a married couple anymore in the spirit realm. Souls can spend time together if they want but they aren't married in the spirit realm anymore. It may be hard to comprehend in our human brain but in the spirit realm, I guess this all makes sense and we have a different perspective. Hopefully I'm not crushing anyone's fairy tale of being married to their spouse for eternity. Of course when we return back to the spirit realm, if you want to frolic together through fields of lavender with your partner you can, but I think at some point as you reacclimate to who you are as a soul, you may feel that eternity is a long time to frolic.

Michael Newton explains that after doing past life and in-between life regressions with thousands of people, he has classified soul groups. He says that we have Primary Soulmates which is someone frequently in our incarnations as a spouse, brother, sister, best friend, or occasionally a parent. He says we have other souls in our group that he calls Companion Soulmates which is the inner circle of souls we are especially close to, that play support roles in our lives and we do the same for them. Then he says there are Affiliated Souls that are members of secondary soul groups outside our own group but located in the same general spiritual vicinity. You can think of the spirit realm as classrooms in a school where your class is your soul group and there are other souls in the classroom next to yours that you may incarnate with. For example, your sibling or partner can be your primary soulmate so they would be in your classroom, your other siblings, friends, or your parents may be companion soulmates which would be in your classroom as well, and your grandparents could be in an affiliated soul group like a classroom next door. That's just an example but you get the idea. Then these souls come together to plan the incarnation. Think of it as a meeting where everyone discusses their roles and the learnings planned. Also, not everyone in your soul group will incarnate with you so you may have a soulmate that stays in the spirit realm for this round. Either way, soul groups support us from the spirit realm while we are in our incarnation as well.

As I dived into my own past lives, I have found that my husband, parents, sisters, and children have been in different lives with me on Earth and on different planets. I know that we are all starseeds which means we were all incarnating on other planets before incarnating on Earth. I also know that my husband has been my husband in prior lives, for example we were together in a Native American life in the 1300s and we had our same children together. However, I also know that we have had lives without each other so he's not in every life with me. In 9,000 BC I was a man that helped build pyramids here on Earth and I never married in that life. I also know that my husband was a galactic being called the Nommo in the Sirius star system with me in many lives, and he was also a blue humanoid being from the Andromeda constellation with me as well (see my AI generated picture of a couple from the Andromeda constellation above). The fact that my husband doesn't think I'm absolutely weird for my love of metaphysical and galactic research probably means something! If you meet with a good medium to dig into your past lives, then they can tell you if your family member was with you in the past life. It's all very interesting and sometimes hard for us to get our heads around, I know!

To summarize, we all have these relationships for the learning and experience. The soul loves all these interactions we have together on Earth. Even if you didn't handle a relationship well in your life, don't beat yourself up about it. What's important is how you treat yourself and others moving forward. If you are reading this blog post, you are likely an experienced soul and you've been around the block. Thus, a big part of your learning in this incarnation is to love yourself and learn to surf all the waves we have here on Earth. If you've been through a divorce or had bad breakups, forgive yourself and move on. Love yourself unconditionally and do your best to forgive those that hurt you as well. This seems to be the point to incarnating here on Earth: to love and forgive ourselves and then others, and learn to surf these waves because there are always waves here on Earth.