Fear of Not Fitting In

Speaking our truth and living life as our unique and authentic selves is very important. However, I think that it can be very challenging as humans to live life authentically because humans are so hardwired into the idea of fitting in with society. Why have humans always wanted to fit in? I’ll give you a personal example. In a past life at the end of ancient Egypt around 30 BC, I was thrown in jail because I wouldn’t go along with what the regime was trying to do and I was killed in jail. This has happened again and again throughout history. Anyone that had opinions that differed from the dominating regime, religion, or majority would be thrown in jail or publicly killed. There have been a lot of witch trials across human history. Many of those targeted were women that were using natural remedies to help and heal and they were considered “different”. These women were often publicly drowned or burned at the stake for just spending time in nature and wanting to help their fellow humans. This all created a lot of fear that we carry with us. 

As I was starting to write in my blog about my galactic past lives and my spiritual experiences, I started to sweat. Yes, I started to get real nervous that I was going to get kicked out of society or worst of all people would think I was weird! My blog posts about near death experiences felt as if they fit into what the boundaries of “normal” are but talking about an extraterrestrial visiting me at night…yikes! Will people chase me around with pitchforks?! 

As I started to think back on my life, I've always fit in. Of anything I actually never stuck out. I was average at school and sports and I always chose a desk in the middle of the classroom. I was even the middle child! I grew up in an average suburb of Ohio, and even Ohio is the most average state in the United States. Companies actually come to Ohio to test their merchandise because we are the most average Americans. As I looked back at my life, I started to see the patterns. I was never the fastest runner or the smartest student but I always sort of landed in the middle. Interesting, I thought. Is this the end of my ability to fit in?

I met with the wonderful channeler, Stephanie to hear from my spirit guide about this. I told Stephanie, “I’ve always fit in my whole life. Actually, of anything I’ve always been very average and have never stood out. Am I no longer going to fit in?” Stephanie said, “Let’s hear from your spirit guide on this”. Here is what he said in the channeling: 

“Well hello again, I would say this to you dear, you are not fringe. You have never been fringe, you will never be considered fringe, you may try to work and toil away to make yourself into one considered to be on the fringe. But no alas, it shall not work, it shall not be, because you have already determined there is a great value, a great great value that you place on relatability. I would say agreed, completely agreed, on some level you will always maintain your relatability. You may call it normalcy but I would dare challenge that word because what seems to be deemed normal in my estimation, in our estimation, is far from anything normal. It just happens to be a sickness that has been spread and spread and spread, and ill behaviors that have been repeated and repeated and repeated and now they are considered normal. That’s the sickness isn’t it. 

I would love for you to take this notion out that you are somehow moving toward a time or phase in your earthly journey that will wring you out. Sure there will be moments of that you will find. You will find split second decisions you will make when you are faced with a social interaction, or gathering, or question, or interrogation of sorts and you have to make a choice right there in the moment, do I speak what is true or do I opt for something more palatable, more mundane, more easy to digest, or more easy to dismiss is how I would term it. In those moments where you choose your courage, your truth, some of your knowingness, and a lot of your not knowingness, well those will be the moments where you float a little bit higher, where the internal landscape of you becomes a little bit more uplifted, it will feel a little bit like a heart attack at first for there will be a quickening of your pulse and even some sweating and a faster respiratory rate for there is some stress involved as someone makes the decision to speak out into anything that feels that it must be spoken out to, it is like taking a stand for the underserved, it is like speaking out for the bullied kid on the playground, it is like correcting a person in a position of authority when you are really quite sure that what you have to say has validity as well. 

So the moments where humans are being invited into that, into that very decision, into that very full embodiment, they are coming at breakneck speed, they are coming day after day, moment after moment so I’m encouraging you to place yourself into different relational exchanges, I’m encouraging you to gather your wisdom prior to going to social exchanges and feel into what needs to be shared and sometimes it’s silence. Remember that dear one, because silence is so often what needs to be shared because humans are parched for it. Nobody can hear themselves think or maybe it's the opposite that all they can do is hear themselves think because the thoughts race through so rapidly and quickly that they vie for attention over wisdom. So remember to use your silence as a weapon of love, as a wielding of peace, this is also why you are here.”

After the channeling Stephanie said, "your soul chose to be relatable". This makes a weird amount of sense if I look back at my life. What makes a person relatable? Someone that is relatable is one that has a sense of humor, is open, listens well, and gets along with people. When I think of someone that is not relatable, I think of people that society puts on a pedestal like the football star, the celebrity actress, and the billionaire. Perhaps this is one of those things that my spirit guide says is “normal” in our society but isn’t good, that we put people on a pedestal based on outer beauty and money. The soul of the football star, the celebrity, and the billionaire did choose that type of life for specific reasons and challenges as well. So you can see how the soul makes these types of choices. As humanity evolves, hopefully this behavior of putting people on a pedestal will change and we can celebrate everyone’s unique gifts instead of focusing on a select few.

My spirit guide also says that I’ll hit moments in my future journey where I will be put on the spot and I will need to make a decision. Do I speak my truth even if this person may think I’m weird for saying what I want to say? I can see how I am relatable; however I am also a seeker of truth and knowledge. I believe that it is part of my purpose in this incarnation to consume knowledge and share so I also think it's important that I speak my truth. 

The other thing here is that sometimes people just need to be listened to and heard. Perhaps I don’t need to share my thoughts in every conversation and that’s okay. We all have a perspective on this planet based on our soul's journey, past lives, and our current life experience. I agree with my guide that sometimes humans should just go with the option of silence and listen openly to another’s perspective based on the journey they have walked.